Posts tagged dating
Asian Pacific American Bachelor 2016: Daryl Iijima

My favorite feature of the year is here! This month's search for APA Month 2016's Bachelor of the Year took a little longer than any of the previous years - and it's worth it! 

Daryl is 4th generation JA so I had to Asian him up with bamboo and milk tea

Daryl is 4th generation JA so I had to Asian him up with bamboo and milk tea

Daryl serenades the ladies on his ukulele   

Daryl serenades the ladies on his ukulele


Daryl is an EDM DJ who combines his passions for music and his faith. And since I know you ladies appreciate a James Earl Jones basso like do, I have a special treat - APA Bachelor's first ever VIDEO interview!

Name:  Daryl Iijima
Age: 29
Height: 5'8"
Profession: Toy Licensing

Do you cry at movies: If it Hits Home

Boxers or Briefs: Boxers

Instant turn-on: Funny & Genuine Smile

Dealbreaker: Entitlement/Smoking

Karaoke song of choice: Rather Play the Uke/Sing or DJ :)

Boba flavor of choice: Brown Sugar Milk Tea

On a Friday night you'd prefer to: If it's a Long Week, I'll Rest at Home. Otherwise, I Enjoy a Great Food Adventure/Movie/Game/Show/Trip.

Last Friday you actually: Packed for my DC Trip.

Message to your future wife: I'm not the Biggest, Fastest, Strongest, or Smartest, but I will give you All of Me. All the Love, Care, & Respect that I Possess will be Yours. At the End of the Day, I Hope it's Enough.

BONUS QUESTION: If your entire life was an EDM track, which songs would be mashed in: Alesso & Swedish House Mafia - Pressure Remix VS Don't You Worry Child

Daryl's original mashup:

Is Daryl your man? Leave a comment below and I'll deliver him to you!

Asian Pacific American Bachelor 2015: Donald Lee

Happy Asian Pacific American Month! After living in the motherland, it's a bit odd to be in a country that needs to have a month, but hey I'll take it because...

I get to revive my favorite blog feature - introducing you ladies to an eligible bachelor of my people!

I present to you Donald Lee, a basketball coach (hi height-loving girls) with a Silicon Valley job (hi Chinese moms!). He got my vote after he defended me from an aggro internet commenter - so if you're looking for a man who stands up for your honor, leave a comment below! 

Name:  Donald Lee
Age:  41
Height 5'10"
Profession:  Senior Solutions Engineer (by day) / Basketball Official (Other Times)

Nickname: Coach41 - Years ago, after college, I was selecting a new email address. I was coaching youth basketball at the time and pagers were hot then. I used my pager code ID ("41", which is my birthday) and "coach41" was born!  

Guys, girls, both, something in between:  GIRLS

Do you cry at movies:  I'll admit it....YES.  I watched Furious 7 a few weeks ago and the Paul Walker ending was great but SAD as heck.  

Security Blanket you sleep with at night:  DEPENDS ON WHERE I SLEEP!  :D My new sofa is very comfy.  I'll have my blankets over me and I'll fall asleep with my TV on into the early morning.  Explains why my electricity bill is higher lately!

Looking for a man who can call the shots? #whydontIgetpaidtowritepersonalads

Looking for a man who can call the shots? #whydontIgetpaidtowritepersonalads

Boxer or Briefs:  Briefs!  Much more comfortable!  

Instant Turn-On:  Smile and/or Nice Legs

Deal Breaker: Smoking

Karaoke Song Of Choice:  Valentine - Jim Brinkman / Marina McBride

On A Friday Night You'd Prefer To:  
With most of my friends busy with their families, I prefer to stay active on Friday nights.  I may be officiating basketball or volleyball around the City (San Francisco).  If I'm not officiating, I will be at the gym working out (Body Pump / Body Combat or similar).  Since I am a big Warriors fan, I may be at some games during the season.  

Last Friday You Actually:  
I did not do anything I just stated above!  I had a relatively busy week with work and a few other activities after work.  With a busy weekend ahead, I chose to just decompress and relax.

Boba Flavor Of Choice:  
I actually don't drink much tea (not much of a caffeine person).  But I do like fruit drinks like Watermelon Juice or similar.  

The Purpose Of A Relationship Is To:  
Share in life's joys and divide the sorrows.  We all can have friends to fill this to some extent but that special someone is truly unique and special.  

Message to your future wife:   
I want to let you know what I will be there for you for anything you need and I hope you feel the same way.  I have many great friends but have never usually counted anyone as a "best friend".  But if I've chosen you, then you are definitely are unique enough to be called my best friend.  

Bonus Question!  
What basketball player's career most resembles the relationship you'd like to have? Why?

Deep question but ultimately an easy one.  I'd have to pick Jeremy Lin for a multitude of reasons.  As most people know, Jeremy Lin's NBA career has gone though the lowest of the lows (Warriors), the highest of the highs (Knicks) and everything else in between (Rockets / Lakers).  Through it all,  Jeremy stuck to his beliefs, got support from his friends / family and continued to improve. 

Relationships are also like roller coasters.  You go through the ups and downs.  It's important to enjoy the ups but also ride the downs as well.  You have to persist even when things are tough. Jeremy Lin has said he's learned from his down years and appreciates basketball / life more.  I also feel the same way.  When you ride the downs and get through it, you appreciate the experience.  This is what I always try to do with anything I do in life from work, to friends and to relationships.

Thanks Don! And if you ladies want to know HOW to date #tigermom style - check out my article 3 Ways Asians Got Dating Right

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